In Islam , having sex is a worship that can bring rewards for married couples. As a perfect religion, Islam also regulates in detail how to have sex properly and correctly. Although it is worth worship, there are etiquette that must be obeyed. As well as prohibitions that should not be violated when having sex. Here is complete guide for Halal Sex.
Adab during sex also helps to provide comfort for both parties, both husband and wife. Therefore, let’s look at the procedures and etiquette of having sex in Islamic teachings so that we can reap blessings.
Every worship will be worth the reward depending on the intention. Therefore, intend to make love with your partner to protect yourself from adultery or cheating, produce offspring, and expect rewards as a form of alms. From Abu Zar Radhiyallahu ‘anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:
Did you know that if someone fulfills his lust for what is forbidden, he is a sinner. Likewise, if he fulfills his lust for what is lawful, he will get a reward.” (HR. Muslim, no. 2376)
Warm up Before Making Love
In accordance with the procedures and etiquette of having sex in the teachings of Islam. Husband and wife should not be in a hurry when they want to start making love. There needs to be a warm-up first or what is known as foreplay. For example, teasing or doing physical touches such as kissing, hugging, or touching sensitive areas on your partner’s body to make them more passionate.
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Read the prayer before Halal Sex
Before having sex, husband and wife should recite the prayer first. This prayer is intended so that we are kept away from the devil when having marital relations. The pronunciation of the prayer is:
“Bismillah, allahumma jannibnas-syaithaan wa jannibis-syaithaana maa razaq-tanaa”
Meaning: “In the name of Allah, O Allah, keep us away from (disturbing) the devil and keep the devil away from the sustenance that You have bestowed upon us.”
Go from any direction
Islam justifies all variations or ways of having sex. As long as it is in the genitals. That is, a husband is allowed to have intercourse with his wife from any direction, as long as it is only in one hole, namely the genitals. This is based on the word of Allah Ta’ala,
“Your wives are (like) the land where you grow crops, so come to the land where you grow crops. So go your crops as you wish.” (Surat al-Baqarah: 223)
Anal Sex is Forbidden
In Islam, we are forbidden to have intercourse through the anus or anal sex. As mentioned in the letter Al-Baqarah verse 223 above that the wife is a field where the husband grows crops. The place where the seeds are sown is in the genitals, not in the anus. The hadith that underlies this prohibition is the words of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam,
“Truly cursed is the man who fucks his wife in the rectum.” (HR. Ahmad 2:479)
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Sex when the wife is menstruating
In addition to the prohibition on anal sex. Islam also does not allow husbands to have intercourse with their menstruating wives. Husbands are still allowed to carry out other sexual activities, as long as they do not have intercourse in the genitals. This explanation is summarized in the letter Al-Baqarah verse 222.
They ask you about menstruation. Say: ‘Menstruation is an excrement’. Therefore, you should abstain from women during menstruation; and do not approach them until they are holy. When they are pure, then meet them where Allah has commanded you.” (Surat al-Baqarah: 222)
Wudhu if you want to repeat sexual intercourse
Newlyweds or couples who are programing to add children can usually have sex more than once in one round. It’s okay to repeat once, twice, or three times. However, it is sunnah for us to perform ablution when we want to repeat sexual relations. The goal is to add freshness and enthusiasm to continue the next round.
Take a Janabat bath after having sex
After having sex, husband and wife are required to take a Janabat bath. In fact, even if the husband does not get semen or sperm out. It is still obligatory to take a Gusal bath. In addition, the husband also still has to take a mandatory bath if semen comes out even though it does not have intercourse in the genitals, for example sperm comes out during foreplay. The obligation to bathe in Janabat after having sex is written in the Qur’an Surah An-Nisa verse 43.
Don’t share your Bedroom Life
The rule and etiquette of having sex in the Islamic teachings, namely it is forbidden for a person to share bedroom life that occurs between himself and his partner. Spreading a bedroom relationship is even considered the greatest betrayal.
Those are the procedures and etiquette of having Halal sex in Islamic teachings that need to be followed in order to get the reward and get the blessing. Don’t forget to practice it.